Friday, March 30, 2012

naming remorse (and some updates)

Apparently baby naming remorse is becoming more and more common. My favorite blog, The Baby Name Wizard, just had a two-part series on this. Here's the part of the blog article that I found most fascinating:

Historically, names in the English-speaking world were a relatively constrained set, with a small collection of classic names dominating. In England in 1800, the top three names for boys and girls accounted for more than half of all babies born . . . By 1950 in the United States, you needed 79 names (through Gregory for boys, Paula for girls) to get the same population coverage that those six names achieved in England in 1800. Today, it would take 546 different names, including names like Raegan, Yaretzi, Jace and Heaven.

I hear so many people (Mike and I included) who don't want to choose a top-10 baby name - or even a top-100 baby name - for fear that it will be "too common." (We all have memories of being in elementary school with Jennifer R, Jennifer S, Jennifer M, and Jennifer T, right?) But the top names - however you define that - really don't account for that large of a percentage of all babies at this point. So there's a chance that our baby will have to be "Baby B" in elementary school, but that's much (much!) less likely than it would have been even a generation or two ago.



And in other news....
We had our 36-week appointment today. I'll find out next week (we're on to weekly appointments now!) whether I tested positive for Group B Strep, which would mean that I need antibiotics during labor (this happens for about 30% of pregnant women, and totally isn't a big deal as long as you get the antibiotics - otherwise it can be very, very bad for Baby). That was the first "exciting" thing about this week's exam. The second "exciting" thing about this week's exam was that I had my first internal exam...and hopefully my last. Holy cow it hurt - it felt like she was trying to take the internal route to massaging my lungs. Ow!!! It was interesting to hear that I'm "fingertip dilated" (i.e., less than 1 cm) and 50% effaced...

...and that Baby is at a +2 or +3 station (I don't know if I'm using that lingo correctly. Also, I think I'm confused about the stations, because I thought she said that a +2 meant that she hadn't dropped down yet, but this image from a random website shows that the positive stations are further descended. I don't know.)
HOWEVER, a big caveat to all this is that it tells us absolutely nothing about when I might go into labor - it could be tomorrow, or it could be at 42 weeks. So now I'm seriously thinking about skipping the next couple internal exams to (a) avoid the pain and (b) prevent myself from worrying about what it all means, because apparently it means nothing. Baby will make her appearance whenever she's ready, regardless of her current station and my current dilation and effacement. I hear that patience is a virtue toward the end of pregnancy.


And, in completely different news, Mike and I went to the Orchestra tonight and heard the world premiere of a brand new classical piece that was microcommissioned especially for the MN Orch. It was so fun! And tomorrow night we're looking forward to attending a Roller Derby. (Yes, we apparently have very eclectic tastes!!) My only other goals for the weekend are (1) to get some rest!!!, (2) to pack my hospital bag!!, and (3) to catch up on the work that I've been too tired to do for the last two days because I haven't been sleeping well and I'm super exhausted all the time. It's supposed to be beautiful (70s and sunny!) here this weekend, so hopefully I can get out and enjoy the weather too. Hope you all have a great weekend!

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

more due date statistics

Here's another website with due date statistics:  http://spacefem.com/pregnant/charts/duedate3.php

Summary:
Excluding inductions, here are the percentages for each week:
  • Percentage of babies born at 35 weeks: 1.2%
  • Percentage of babies born at 36 weeks: 3.3% (4.5% to date)
  • Percentage of babies born at 37 weeks: 7.1% (11.6%)
  • Percentage of babies born at 38 weeks: 13% (24.6%)
  • Percentage of babies born at 39 weeks: 26.8% (51.4%)
  • Percentage of babies born at 40 weeks: 30.6% (81.4%)
  • Percentage of babies born at 41 weeks: 15.6% (97.0%)
  • Percentage of babies born at 42 weeks: 2.3% (99.3%)
  • Percentage of babies born at 43 weeks: 0.2% (99.5%)
These percentages are based on the 1301 babies born spontaneously, excluding the 424 babies who were induced. As with the graph, "at 40 weeks" means babies born on 40 weeks, 0 days through 40 weeks, 6 days.

The Most Scientific Birth is Often the Least Technological Birth

Great article. We'll see how it goes for us!



If you look at scientific literature, you find over and over again that many interventions increase risk to mother and child instead of decreasing it.

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When I ask my medical students to describe their image of a woman who elects to birth with a midwife rather than with an obstetrician, they generally describe a woman who wears long cotton skirts, braids her hair, eats only organic vegan food, does yoga, and maybe drives a VW microbus. What they don't envision is the omnivorous, pants-wearing science geek standing before them.
Indeed, they become downright confused when I go on to explain that there was really only one reason why my mate -- an academic internist -- and I decided to ditch our obstetrician and move to a midwife: Our midwife could be trusted to be scientific, whereas our obstetrician could not.
Many medical students, like most American patients, confuse science and technology. They think that what it means to be a scientific doctor is to bring to bear the maximum amount of technology on any given patient. And this makes them dangerous. In fact, if you look at scientific studies of birth, you find over and over again that many technological interventions increase risk to the mother and child rather than decreasing it.
But most birthing women don't seem to know this, even if their obstetricians do. Paradoxically, these women seem to want the same thing I wanted: a safe outcome for mother and child. But no one seems to tell them what the data indicate is the best way to get there. The friend who dares to offer half a glass of wine is seen as guilty of reckless endangerment, whereas the obstetrician offering unnecessary and risky procedures is considered heroic.
Ethicists talk about birthing choices as if they are informed and autonomous, but I can't count how many women have said to me they "chose" pain meds during birth even though they were never told the risks.
When I was pregnant, in 2000, and my mate and I consulted the scientific medical literature to find out how to maximize safety for me and our child, here's what we learned from the studies available: I should walk a lot during my pregnancy, and also walk around during my labor; doing so would decrease labor time and pain. During pregnancy, I should get regular check-ups of my weight, urine, blood pressure, and belly growth, but should avoid vaginal exams. I should not bother with a prenatal sonogram if my pregnancy continued to be low-risk, because doing so would be extremely unlikely to improve my or my baby's health, and could well result in further tests that increased risk to us without benefit.
According to the best studies available, when it came time to birth at the end of my low-risk pregnancy, I should not have induction, nor an episiotomy, nor continuous monitoring of the baby's heartbeat during labor, nor pain medications, and definitely not a c-section. I should give birth in the squatting position, and I should have a doula -- a professional labor support person to talk to me throughout the birth. (Studies show that doulas are astonishingly effective at lowering risk, so good that one obstetrician has quipped that if doulas were a drug, it would be illegal not to give one to every pregnant woman.)
In other words, if the regular low-tech tests kept indicating I was having a medically uninteresting pregnancy, and if I wanted to scientifically maximize safety, I should give birth pretty much like my great-grandmothers would have: with the attention of a couple of experienced women mostly waiting it out, while I did the work. (They called it labor for a reason.) The only real notable difference was that my midwife would intermittently use a fetal heart monitor -- just every now and then -- to make sure the baby was doing okay.
My obstetrician and his practice had made clear that they were rather uncomfortable with this kind of "old-fashioned" birth. So we left, and engaged a midwife who was committed to being much more modern. And the birth I had was pretty much as I have described. Yes, it hurt, but my doula and midwife had prepared me mentally for that, assuring me that this kind of special pain did not have to result in fear or harm.
We did end up with one technological intervention: because my son had meconium in his fluid (this means he'd defecated in the womb), the midwife explained to me that right after birth, the pediatricians would be scooping him up to suck out his trachea (his windpipe). The idea was to prevent pneumonia. They did this, and three months later over breakfast my husband presented me the results of a randomized control trial that had just come out: it showed that babies in this situation who only had their mouths and not their tracheas cleaned actually had lower rates of pneumonia compared to those who got the tracheal intervention. Another intervention that turned out not to be worth it.
So why is it that, over a decade later, when the evidence still supports a low-interventionist type of pregnancy and birth management for low-risk cases, we've made virtually no inroads to making birth more scientific in the United States.
I put that question to a few scholars who work on this issue. One of them, Libby Bogdan-Lovis of the Center for Ethics and Humanities in the Life Sciences at Michigan State University, happens also to have been my doula. (Lucky me.) Libby noted that a big part of the problem is the way birth is conceived in America -- as "dangerous, risky, and in need of control to ensure a good outcome."
Libby pointed out that institutional strictures contribute to the problem: "Insurance companies generally cover hospital birth, not home birth, they are more inclined to compensate doctors over midwives, they compensate doctors and hospital-based midwives for doing something over doing nothing, and the health care system's risk management approach backs those who can demonstrate that they did everything possible in terms of intervention." All this in spite of the fact that, as Libby notes, "attempts to control birth are fraught with real medicalized risk and commonly lead to cascades of interventions."

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Raymond De Vries, a sociologist in the University of Michigan's Center for Bioethics and Social Science in Medicine, has compared birth in the U.S. to that in the Netherlands, where he is a visiting professor at the University of Maastricht. He finds that, in the U.S., "obstetricians are the experts and the experts have come to see birth as dangerous and frightening." De Vries suggests that the organization of maternity care in this country -- "the limited choices that American women have for bringing their baby into the world, what women are not told about dangers of intervening in birth, and the misuse of science to support the new technologies of birth" -- actually constitutes an ethical problem, although we typically do not recognize it as one. Medical ethicists "would rather look to the [comparatively rare] problems of in vitro fertilization and preimplantation genetic diagnosis than to the every day issues of how we organize birth here in the U.S.; they would rather talk about preserving women's 'choices' than to explore how those choices are bent by culture."
So true. Ethicists love to talk about women's birthing choices as if they are informed and autonomous, but I can't count how many women have said to me that they "chose" pain medication during birth even though they were never told the risks of pain medication, never had anyone express confidence in them that they could birth without medication, and were never offered a doula to walk and talk them through the pain. What kind of "choice" is that? As Libby Bogdan-Lovis told me, "Today's average childbearing woman thinks the notion of an unmedicated birth is the equivalent of suggesting that women should eagerly embrace torture."
If I wanted to maximize safety, I should give birth like my grandmothers would have: with the attention of a couple of experienced women mostly waiting it out, while I did the work.
I think of all the choices I made, the one that shocked my peers most was not getting a prenatal ultrasound. But just a few years before I became pregnant, a major U.S. study -- involving over 15,000 pregnancies -- published in the New England Journal of Medicine showed that routine ultrasounds did not leave babies safer. That work was led by Bernard Ewigman, now chair of family medicine at the University of Chicago and NorthShore University Health System.
I recently called Dr. Ewigman and asked him why so many low-risk pregnancies now involve routine ultrasounds. He suggested that it was partly emotional -- people like to "see" their babies -- and partly due to the unsubstantiated belief that knowing something is necessarily going to lead to better outcomes than not knowing. But, he agreed, routine prenatal sonograms in low-risk pregnancies (that is, pregnancies in which there have been no problems) do not appear to be supported by science, if the outcome you're seeking is reducing illness and death in mothers and children. Routine prenatal sonograms don't seem to be dangerous, but they are also not health-giving.
Dr. Ewigman told me, "The approach you took to your pregnancy was rational and well informed. But most decision-making when it comes to medical issues involving a pregnant woman or baby are not well informed and not based on rational thinking." He added: "We're all very interested in having healthy babies and it is pretty easy to make the kind of cognitive errors that people make, and attribute to technology benefits that don't exist. At the same time, when there are problems in a pregnancy, that very same technology can be life-saving. It is easy to make the [problematic mental] leap that technology is always going to be necessary for a good outcome."
Dr. Ewigman and I talked about how some people derive false certainty from prenatal sonograms, thinking that if the clinicians see nothing unusual, the baby will be born perfectly healthy. I explained to him that that was one reason I didn't bother; I knew from my own research on birth anomalies how often sonograms mislead. He observed that our culture has "a real fascination with technology, and we also have a strong desire to deny death. And the technological aspects of medicine really market well to that kind of culture." Whereas a low-interventionist approach to medical care -- no matter how scientific -- does not.
I'm not against taking into account, when making birthing choices, the kinds of hard-to-measure outcomes that may matter deeply to some pregnant women. I get that there are some women who don't want a baby shower like mine, where most of the gifts consist of yellow and green baby clothes, instead of pink or blue. I get that some want to have those fuzzy pictures of the babies in their wombs. I get that some might want to abort if a sonogram were to show a major anomaly.
And I get that some women want a particular experience of birth -- I mean, I really get that now that I have had a birth that left me feeling more powerful, more humble, more focused, and more devoted to my lover than I ever thought I could feel.
But I wish American women were told the truth about birth -- the truth about their bodies, their abilities, and the dangers of technology. Mostly I wish all pregnant women could hear what Libby Bogdan-Lovis, my doula, told me: "Birthing a baby requires the same relinquishing of control as does sex -- abandoning oneself to the overwhelming sensation and doing so in a protective and supportive environment." If only more women knew how sexy a scientific birth can be.
This article available online at:
http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2012/03/the-most-scientific-birth-is-often-the-least-technological-birth/254420/

Monday, March 26, 2012

two photos

This first one is for Rachel. (I'm still trying to fit in the "Super Steph" apron you gave me!)
Here was my belly back at 34 weeks - I feel exponentially larger only two weeks later.



Tonight I took our stroller out for a spin around our living room, just to make sure all the components (bassinet, stroller seat, carseat) were all still working correctly. At one point I walked away for a minute, and when I came back I thought I had jammed a wheel or something, because it was suddenly much heavier! Then I realized that I had a freeloader. :)




We're pretty much done with everything on our to-do list at this point, other than packing a hospital bag. I realized that I've been avoiding that partly because I don't have any spare clothes (that still fit) that I can pack away, and partly because packing for the hospital makes it suddenly much more real. I'm determined not to have a March baby, so maybe I'll get around to packing once April rolls around...

I'm still dealing with a nasty case of third trimester fatigue. I'm back to feeling pretty worthless at work, and back to needing about 12 hours of sleep per day. So on that note, I'm off to bed!

Sunday, March 25, 2012

in the future

We're only one month away from Baby's due date, so I thought it would be fun to take stock of this whole pregnancy experience to date...



Things I will miss about being pregnant
1. Being able to wear empire-waist shirts/dresses without worrying that people will think I look pregnant.
2. Being told how great I look all the time.
3. Learning to trust my body.
4. Feeling small. (Counter-intuitive, I know. But since my belly is so big now, it makes the rest of my gangly long limbs seem almost small-ish.)
5. Being encouraged by Mike to eat Oreos and ice cream every night.  :)
6. Not worrying about whether my stomach looks like it's sticking out.
7. Feeling Baby kick.



Things I am looking forward to when longer pregnant
1. Finally getting to meet Baby!!!
2. DIET COKE (without the guilt)
3. Not having heartburn all day long. And at night.
4. Sleeping in the same bed as my husband. (I use so many pillows to prop myself up at night that Mike has been sleeping in the other room for the past 15 weeks or so.)
5. Having more energy (e.g., not getting out of breath when walking 10 feet).
6. Being able to bend at the waist and to reach my toes.
7. Not burping all the time. (It's so gross!)


Anything else I'm missing on either list?

Thursday, March 22, 2012

last chance to place your bet!

Only 34 days to go until April 25. Last chance to place your bet on Baby's arrival! 

April 10 or earlier:   Joanne's guess (eek!)
Wed, April 11:
Thurs, April 12:
Fri, April 13:
Sat, April 14:
Sun, April 15:
Mon, April 16:
Tues, April 17:

Wed, April 18:    Emily's guess (her birthday)
Thurs, April 19:
Fri, April 20:
Sat, April 21:      Steph's guess
Sun, April 22:     Louise's guess and Angie's guess (their birthdays and Earth Day)
Mon, April 23:    Jack's guess (Jack and Marsha's birthday)
Tues, April 24:    Marsha's guess

Wed, April 25:     Steve's guess (Wendy's birthday)
Thurs, April 26:      Mike's guess
Fri, April 27:       Dotty's guess
Sat, April 28:
Sun, April 29:      Ryan's guess
Mon, April 30:    Margaret's guess (my grandma's birthday)
Tues, May 1:

Wed, May 2:     Wendy's guess
Thurs, May 3:
Fri, May 4:
Sat, May 5:       Natalie's guess (her birthday)
Sun, May 6:
Mon, May 7:
Tues, May 8:
induction on Wed, May 9:

the first nine months

Here's a fascinating article about the long-term effects of  in utero experiences. Thanks to my coworker Angie for passing this on!

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2021065-1,00.html


Of course, no woman who is pregnant today can escape hearing the message that what she does affects her fetus. She hears it at doctor's appointments, sees it in the morning newspaper and in the pregnancy guidebooks: Do eat this, don't drink that, always be vigilant — but never stressed. Expectant mothers could be forgiven for feeling that pregnancy is nothing but a nine-month slog, full of guilt and devoid of pleasure, and this research threatened to add to the burden.


But as I began applying what I learned to my own pregnancy, I developed a very different perspective on fetal origins. The scientists I met weren't full of dire warnings but of the excitement of discovery — and the hope that their discoveries would make a positive difference. We're used to hearing about all the things that can go wrong during pregnancy, but as these researchers are finding out, it's frequently the intrauterine environment that makes things go right in later life.


Read more: http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2021065,00.html#ixzz1ow0E5nlW